The husband secretly sent money to his parents

He transferred the money without discussing with me a word, I found that the way to behave was too much.

I am 29 years old, living in Ho Chi Minh City, pregnant with the second baby, the first 3-year-old boy; husband 28 years old. Our income is about 80 to 90 million VND / month and we owe one billion VND to buy apartments, pay 8 million and a half interest every month, and the rest, I borrow to pay about 50 to 60 million VND / month to the bank.

3 years ago, although their salary was quite high, when he got married, he could not save anything, almost sent to his family, nearly married because I saved to have the extra money and gold to buy for himself. After the wedding, the parents-in-law gave 500 thousand VND for the train bill, even 10 million after the wedding.

When buying the first apartment, the couple had little capital, managed to borrow money from both sides of the family, but only the foreign family had conditions to lend, while the husband's family in the countryside refused, asked to sell the land or borrow money from the father-in-law. or her husband also said it was not possible, even the gold saved and not lent. Since then when I need money, I have arranged and borrowed it by myself. My husband and I still send monthly from 2 million to 2.5 million, now 3 million already; In addition, we also send quarterly medical expenses, Tet spending, and miscellaneous supplies purchases throughout the year. Not to mention large amounts like building houses and fences also contribute because we have a good income.

To tell the truth, after getting married without any support from my husband's family (looking after my children with my sister-in-law but not often), I was very disappointed. I believe that when starting a business, anyone who can help me more or less appreciates it. Yet, over the past 4 years, my husband's family has very little support, almost only receives money from us even if the family has fields and additional gardens. My family had only cheeks, and she rarely received money from us, only spent on Tet, shopping for miscellaneous things in the house.

My husband is filial, always worried about his family, and he hid from me before. In the last two months, he seems to have had an extra bonus so he sent home 20 million to open a savings book, not telling me anything. I secretly read the message to see. What should I do in this situation? I felt very sad because my husband's family could not help me, and he even coordinated with his family to surpass me. Not to mention he told me to sign, difficult problems about money. Just married, we owe 900 million, after 3 years to pay off, currently from mid-last year to this year I also paid 250 million, and a billion debt at the bank. While my family's loan repayment was good, I had to manage a lot. Hope you give me your opinion. Thank you.

Hien